7 Steps to Wholeness

The villainous witch, the destructive bitch, and the fearful child underneath it all… I have been silent these few months as I face these parts of myself I kept hidden for lifetimes underneath a facade of “everything is perfect.”

Until now, at this point in my awareness and commitment to myself there is no more room to hide, the mask has been stripped and I am raw. Now I fully surrender to these icky sticky sides of myself. Now the real work begins.

Here is the process that is helping me shed these layers and return to wholeness, I share in hopes that it will work be able to support you as well.

When we are creating pain or separation in our lives, seeing through the lens of fear, or seeking outside for wholeness..
1. Become aware- observe verses engage.
2. Take full responsibility for what you are creating.
3. Ask yourself – Why am I doing this? How am I trying to protect myself/ control life? What fears are driving this?
4. Feel it. Feel it all in its entirety.
5. Integrate the lesson being revealed.
6. Forgive yourself for your previous lack of awareness.
7. Shift into your new lens. Shift into love.

You do not have to stay in the dark. We shed light on our shadows to bring them to completion. You do not have to over process. You just have to take responsibility and commit to shifting into a new operating system.

Thank you for your courage. The more of us who shed and shift, the lighter it gets for all of us. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 

How my Life Turned Upside Down After a Week Deep in the Amazon Jungle

During my weeklong adventure in Peru’s Amazon jungle I learned a very important lesson that will forever change the way I see life.

Until this trip, I had a lifelong fear of bugs, of the diseases they carry, of their mere physicality, of the unknown really. With the selfless support of the other teachers and shamans by my side, Daniel Gutierrez and Eva Charlotte, I was able to put this deep seeded fear to bed once and for all.

What I am about to share is the summation of my lightbulb moment, of the aha that bursted the fear bubble that once blocked me from fully trusting, fully surrendering to the beauty of life. It is my hope that by sharing you will be able to separate from your own mind fears and live a life of freedom and trust.

Here goes..

There are two main types of fear: imaginative and real.

Imaginative fear is created in the mind and is caused by us living either in the past or in the future.

It is caused by us refusing to let go of painful memories or living inside ridiculous stories we have once heard, that are just that- stories with no evidence to back them up. We are projecting the past into the present and we are living inside old, stale wounds.

It is caused by the mind creating fears of what might occur in the future. We think we are protecting ourselves, when in fact we are paralyzing ourselves. When we activate this false sense of protection, this life jacket we glue to ourselves becomes our straight jacket.

This imaginative type of fear does not serve us in the slightest, it robs us the gift of the present moment and drives us absolutely mad!

The beautiful thing about fear is when you run to it it runs away. -Robin Sharma

On the other hand, the kind of fear which is from the body, is warranted and serves us well.

This type of fear floods us with adrenaline so that we can protect ourselves in the moment from a genuine threat. For example if a tiger crossed our path we would go into fight or flight so that we could survive.

This is a genuine threat to our safety, this is not imaginative nor is it only in the mind, it is in physical form staring you in the face.

See the difference now?

So the next time you feel fear coming over you, ask yourself is this real or am I imagining?

99% of the time it’s from our minds, so take a deep breath and relax back into the present.

The Inner Work 101

What do you think are our most common limiting beliefs?

Drumroll please:
– I am not worthy of love
– I am not good enough to have what I want
– I am too different so I cannot connect
– What I want and need isn’t available to me

Where the eff did these beliefs come from? Well, we were born completely neutral energy, a clean slate, and then a core trauma occurs. It could be as tiny as your cat running away or as big as the loss of a loved one. No matter what the trauma is, our reaction is all the same: We take the blame, we believe that it is all our fault. We then develop a specific lens in which we see the world where we recreate situations over and over so we can prove this belief to be true.

Here’s the thing.. this core belief can go away just as easy as it was created because it is not true, it is a lie, an illusion.

First, identify it by asking the following questions:
– What is the way you want to make an impact in the world?
– What is the belief you have about your inability to do so?

The way you feel about giving your gift to the world is the same thing stopping you from everything: optimal health, love, financial freedom, all of it.

Then stalk the shit out of yourself so when it comes up you can observe it versus let it run the show. Stalk your thoughts, words and actions that stem from this belief.

What questions do you have about this process?