The Physics of Love

If you search for me outside yourself, you will never find me.. because I have been in you all along. 

We were born whole beings and somewhere the history of this crazy time we began to believe the illusion that we can only receive love from the outside.

So first and foremost, love requires removing this veil of separation between you and it… unraveling the belief that it is something outside of us.

The only reason one does not attract the love they desire is because they are not giving it to themselves. It’s just plain physics, not some fairy tale story of prince charming. So what I am saying is, if you want to attract love, BECOME it. We are magnetic beings, only able to attract what we are, impossible to attract anything we are not.

If your main nutrients come from from the outside (ie. love, validation, approval..), you will be hungry forever. If you feed yourself with your own nutrients, you’ll never be hungry a day in your life.

So what I am saying is this: Reroute the pathway from out to in. Feed yourself with your own love.

Then from this place, you will be able to say: "To all the men who left me for my friends, cheated on me, toyed with my heart and drove me mad- thank you for showing up just as you did so that I could unravel my karmic knots through you and become the woman I have always known I am here to be... a woman whole in herself.

On Finding "The One..." 

First let's cover why you have not found "the one.." As you probably know by now I don't like to dance around the truth, I am blunt and to the freakin point.. So here we go my friend.

You you are searching for someone to complete you.. to meet you in the places where you are not meeting yourself.. This is a recipe for relationship disaster (attracting the wrong partner over and over and it driving you freakin mad).

Oh I danced this toxic dance with myself for decades, looking for "him" absolutely everywhere I went. Then when I couldn't find him I would I would fill myself with the next best thing, food or a substance (bagels & joints were my fav numbing agents). Until I finally unraveled the pattern, that nasty little bugger, causing me to seek outside myself for love.

How effed is that- we are love- it is within us and yet we have been programmed to believe it is outside. "The One" is not a person. It is the energy of wholeness within that than allows for potential alignment with another energy of a similar frequency.  

As Rumi says, to find the beloved you must first become the beloved.  This isn't woo woo magic - it's pure physics. This is the alchemical process of transformation and you can give it to yourself right now by

  1. Catching yourself when you are seeking outside for love

  2. Rerouting the direction from out to in and giving that which you are seeking TO YOURSELF.

Again & Again & Again. Until the pattern is reversed and you become a fully self sourced sovereign bad ass. 

These two steps are the gold, the simplified roadmap to wholeness & now you have it in the palm of your hands. 

I love you- you've got this.. and if you need a helping hand over the bridge I am always here. Email me back to learn the many ways I can support you.

With love,

Maggie

Becoming my Own Soul Mate

I am learning to become my own soul mate, my own best friend, and my own everything.

Like many of us, I struggle being alone at times, both in public and in private. In public, while waiting for a friend at a restaurant or a bar my mind often goes crazy with ego fueled thoughts like, “what if people think I am a loser for being alone? Can people tell how uncomfortable I am? What if someone I used to date sees me here all by myself and thinks I must be crazy for being 27 and still single?”

The moment that the flood of thoughts become too much, I instinctively reach for protection: my beloved iPhone, and immediately a wave of comfort rushes over me. What is it that our phones do in these moments? I have done a lot of thinking and observing on this and I believe we escape into our phones when we feel uncomfortable out in the world, when we start to believe the stories in our heads about what people may be thinking. The reality is that nearly 99/100 times the stories are entirely false. The other people are too busy worrying about themselves to even care.

Using my phone as a comfort blanket is no different than me feeling exponentially more confident going out to a party with a friend by my side. These are all external energies that we rely on for comfort, yet they are merely reflections of ourselves so really, we have all the comfort inside of us already.

In September I am challenging myself to go to India alone. I am going to rid myself of all of these external comfort blankets and become entirely okay being alone, without the reassurance or confidence booster of technology or a best friend.

I am committed to becoming my own everything, to being 100% okay alone in my own skin and not believing my own stories about what people may think. It is when we love ourselves unconditionally, that we attract magic into our lives, and I’m committed to living a life full of magic.