The Physics of Love

If you search for me outside yourself, you will never find me.. because I have been in you all along. 

We were born whole beings and somewhere the history of this crazy time we began to believe the illusion that we can only receive love from the outside.

So first and foremost, love requires removing this veil of separation between you and it… unraveling the belief that it is something outside of us.

The only reason one does not attract the love they desire is because they are not giving it to themselves. It’s just plain physics, not some fairy tale story of prince charming. So what I am saying is, if you want to attract love, BECOME it. We are magnetic beings, only able to attract what we are, impossible to attract anything we are not.

If your main nutrients come from from the outside (ie. love, validation, approval..), you will be hungry forever. If you feed yourself with your own nutrients, you’ll never be hungry a day in your life.

So what I am saying is this: Reroute the pathway from out to in. Feed yourself with your own love.

Then from this place, you will be able to say: "To all the men who left me for my friends, cheated on me, toyed with my heart and drove me mad- thank you for showing up just as you did so that I could unravel my karmic knots through you and become the woman I have always known I am here to be... a woman whole in herself.

On Finding "The One..." 

First let's cover why you have not found "the one.." As you probably know by now I don't like to dance around the truth, I am blunt and to the freakin point.. So here we go my friend.

You you are searching for someone to complete you.. to meet you in the places where you are not meeting yourself.. This is a recipe for relationship disaster (attracting the wrong partner over and over and it driving you freakin mad).

Oh I danced this toxic dance with myself for decades, looking for "him" absolutely everywhere I went. Then when I couldn't find him I would I would fill myself with the next best thing, food or a substance (bagels & joints were my fav numbing agents). Until I finally unraveled the pattern, that nasty little bugger, causing me to seek outside myself for love.

How effed is that- we are love- it is within us and yet we have been programmed to believe it is outside. "The One" is not a person. It is the energy of wholeness within that than allows for potential alignment with another energy of a similar frequency.  

As Rumi says, to find the beloved you must first become the beloved.  This isn't woo woo magic - it's pure physics. This is the alchemical process of transformation and you can give it to yourself right now by

  1. Catching yourself when you are seeking outside for love

  2. Rerouting the direction from out to in and giving that which you are seeking TO YOURSELF.

Again & Again & Again. Until the pattern is reversed and you become a fully self sourced sovereign bad ass. 

These two steps are the gold, the simplified roadmap to wholeness & now you have it in the palm of your hands. 

I love you- you've got this.. and if you need a helping hand over the bridge I am always here. Email me back to learn the many ways I can support you.

With love,

Maggie

Wholly Woman

A woman whole in herself moves, speaks, and emotes from deep within her center where she is guided by the Goddess and her intuition. She dances from her heart, you can feel it in way she sways her hips not only for herself, but for the remembering of all who watch her.

She has battled her own inner dragons, has taken full responsibility for the darkness within her, and has unraveled the patterns within her kicking and screaming to keep her darkness alive.

She knows these civil wars were fought and won inside her so that she can serve as a guide for others to journey through their own unraveling and return home. She is devoted to anchoring this process for all women on this planet.

She has understood how to harness her wisdom and fire into being a creator and bridge for the new world. While she has enough awareness and power to destroy the old one, she is wise enough to know she is meant to create versus destroy. So instead she no longer subscribes to the patriarchal narratives controlling the stale system crumbling around her, while she thoroughly comprehends the web that has ruled the world through the suppression of feminine empowerment, love, connection, oneness, and pleasure.

Her body, energy, relationships, connection to the Divine and nature are her temple and she only invites other temples to come close.

To all the women on the journey to wholeness, I bow to your perserverance. Thank you for rebuilding your temple. I am so infinitely grateful for your presence and commitment to yourself.

7 Steps to Wholeness

The villainous witch, the destructive bitch, and the fearful child underneath it all… I have been silent these few months as I face these parts of myself I kept hidden for lifetimes underneath a facade of “everything is perfect.”

Until now, at this point in my awareness and commitment to myself there is no more room to hide, the mask has been stripped and I am raw. Now I fully surrender to these icky sticky sides of myself. Now the real work begins.

Here is the process that is helping me shed these layers and return to wholeness, I share in hopes that it will work be able to support you as well.

When we are creating pain or separation in our lives, seeing through the lens of fear, or seeking outside for wholeness..
1. Become aware- observe verses engage.
2. Take full responsibility for what you are creating.
3. Ask yourself – Why am I doing this? How am I trying to protect myself/ control life? What fears are driving this?
4. Feel it. Feel it all in its entirety.
5. Integrate the lesson being revealed.
6. Forgive yourself for your previous lack of awareness.
7. Shift into your new lens. Shift into love.

You do not have to stay in the dark. We shed light on our shadows to bring them to completion. You do not have to over process. You just have to take responsibility and commit to shifting into a new operating system.

Thank you for your courage. The more of us who shed and shift, the lighter it gets for all of us. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 

Becoming my Own Soul Mate

I am learning to become my own soul mate, my own best friend, and my own everything.

Like many of us, I struggle being alone at times, both in public and in private. In public, while waiting for a friend at a restaurant or a bar my mind often goes crazy with ego fueled thoughts like, “what if people think I am a loser for being alone? Can people tell how uncomfortable I am? What if someone I used to date sees me here all by myself and thinks I must be crazy for being 27 and still single?”

The moment that the flood of thoughts become too much, I instinctively reach for protection: my beloved iPhone, and immediately a wave of comfort rushes over me. What is it that our phones do in these moments? I have done a lot of thinking and observing on this and I believe we escape into our phones when we feel uncomfortable out in the world, when we start to believe the stories in our heads about what people may be thinking. The reality is that nearly 99/100 times the stories are entirely false. The other people are too busy worrying about themselves to even care.

Using my phone as a comfort blanket is no different than me feeling exponentially more confident going out to a party with a friend by my side. These are all external energies that we rely on for comfort, yet they are merely reflections of ourselves so really, we have all the comfort inside of us already.

In September I am challenging myself to go to India alone. I am going to rid myself of all of these external comfort blankets and become entirely okay being alone, without the reassurance or confidence booster of technology or a best friend.

I am committed to becoming my own everything, to being 100% okay alone in my own skin and not believing my own stories about what people may think. It is when we love ourselves unconditionally, that we attract magic into our lives, and I’m committed to living a life full of magic.

How my Life Turned Upside Down After a Week Deep in the Amazon Jungle

During my weeklong adventure in Peru’s Amazon jungle I learned a very important lesson that will forever change the way I see life.

Until this trip, I had a lifelong fear of bugs, of the diseases they carry, of their mere physicality, of the unknown really. With the selfless support of the other teachers and shamans by my side, Daniel Gutierrez and Eva Charlotte, I was able to put this deep seeded fear to bed once and for all.

What I am about to share is the summation of my lightbulb moment, of the aha that bursted the fear bubble that once blocked me from fully trusting, fully surrendering to the beauty of life. It is my hope that by sharing you will be able to separate from your own mind fears and live a life of freedom and trust.

Here goes..

There are two main types of fear: imaginative and real.

Imaginative fear is created in the mind and is caused by us living either in the past or in the future.

It is caused by us refusing to let go of painful memories or living inside ridiculous stories we have once heard, that are just that- stories with no evidence to back them up. We are projecting the past into the present and we are living inside old, stale wounds.

It is caused by the mind creating fears of what might occur in the future. We think we are protecting ourselves, when in fact we are paralyzing ourselves. When we activate this false sense of protection, this life jacket we glue to ourselves becomes our straight jacket.

This imaginative type of fear does not serve us in the slightest, it robs us the gift of the present moment and drives us absolutely mad!

The beautiful thing about fear is when you run to it it runs away. -Robin Sharma

On the other hand, the kind of fear which is from the body, is warranted and serves us well.

This type of fear floods us with adrenaline so that we can protect ourselves in the moment from a genuine threat. For example if a tiger crossed our path we would go into fight or flight so that we could survive.

This is a genuine threat to our safety, this is not imaginative nor is it only in the mind, it is in physical form staring you in the face.

See the difference now?

So the next time you feel fear coming over you, ask yourself is this real or am I imagining?

99% of the time it’s from our minds, so take a deep breath and relax back into the present.

Welcome in the New Paradigm of "Work"

When I say the word “work” what comes to mind?

The most common reactions are:

– The way in which we make an income
– Reaching external goals
– Physical exercise

I am here to share that most of the hours of my day are spent doing none of the above… and guess what, this way has provided me with more financial freedom, bliss, fulfillment, a better body, and overall success than any of those old paradigm beliefs ever did.

Your eyeballs are in the right place because I am about to share the style of work that has transformed my life from dull and numb to complete ecstasy.
– Remembering who I am in every moment: a creator of my reality worthy of everything I want in life and more
– Stalking and releasing any thoughts, words, or actions that are not aligned with this truth
– Opening my heart to deeper levels of love and bliss
– Aligning to my purpose

Here is the lightbulb moment: You don’t have to work hard. You are not wired to work 40 hour work weeks, sit in an office, or exert energy on anything that isn’t a fuck yes from your core.

Instead, we work smart:
– Taking care of yourself first and foremost
– Doing the INNER work- prioritizing your mind, body and spirit before any external project is even entertained
– Creating a business which gives your gifts to the world

If you are ready to smart work and say goodbye to hard work you know where to find me.